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Counselling is a process that helps individuals explore and work through their emotional, psychological, and interpersonal difficulties. It provides a safe and supportive environment for people to talk about their thoughts, feelings, and experiences and to gain insight and understanding into their problems. Are you looking for a way to improve your mental well-being and find happiness in your life? Look no further than counselling and psychotherapy in Enfield! At Bluebells Counselling, our mission is to provide you with the tools and support you need to live a more fulfilling life. Our experienced therapists are here to help you work through a variety of issues, including body confidence, eating disorders, fears and phobias, sleep difficulties, work-related stress, sexual health issues, relationship problems, separation/divorce, difficulties making decisions, addictions, abuse, bereavement, anger, anxiety, panic attacks, depression, suicide and suicidal thoughts, and low self-esteem/confidence. No matter what challenges you may be facing, we are here to help. We believe that counselling can be a powerful tool for personal growth and change. By providing a safe and confidential space to explore your thoughts and feelings, we can help you gain insight into your inner world and find solutions to your challenges. Our approach is tailored to your individual needs, and we work collaboratively with you to help you achieve your goals. At Bluebells Counselling, we understand the importance of confidentiality and discretion. That's why our sessions are strictly confidential, and we take great care to protect your privacy. If you're ready to take the first step towards a happier, more fulfilling life, we encourage you to book a counselling appointment today. You can call us at Mobile: +44 7816977334 or fill out the contact form below, and someone will be in touch with you soon. We look forward to helping you on your journey towards greater well-being and happiness.


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Bereavement Counselling Online

You can have bereavement counselling from the comfort of your own home, simply with Zoom counselling. Call a therapist now on +44 781 69 77 334. 

Normal Grief

Grief is a normal part of life. It is painful but does not need medical treatment.

When a loved one passes away, grief is experienced in three main stages:

1) Numbness

This lasts from a few hours to a week. You may feel numb and feel as if the person hasn’t died, or that you can’t accept the reality of the death.

2) Mourning

From one week to six months after death (it gets easier after three months), you may feel sad, depressed, have little appetite, find yourself crying a lot; or maybe agitated, anxious and unable to concentrate. Some people feel guilty. They may feel they did not do enough for the deceased. Others blame professionals or friends and family. You may find that you have physical symptoms, such as pain, during this phase. Most people have the feeling at some point that the deceased is present in some way. One in ten people reports seeing, hearing or smelling the dead person when they are not there. Many of the experiences mimic depression, but they are normal. You are not depressed or going mad; your body is simply responding normally to a traumatic, sad event.

3) Acceptance

From six months onwards. Your symptoms will subside. You start to accept the death and try to get back to normal.

Coping with Grief

Grief is natural, and so are your feelings. Grief is a process that has to be worked through. If it is not, then your feelings could fester and they could catch up with you in the end, turning into depression. Grief should not be bottled up – it needs to be let out.

Even if you seem to be having a severe reaction to the death at first, you are likely to come through the process with just the support of your friends and family, or perhaps a counsellor.

It is usually best to turn to your family and friends initially. They will also need to grieve. You can help each other to come to terms with what had happened.

Counsellors can offer support in grief and can help people work through the process in a controlled way. They are particularly useful if you find that you are not passing through the stages of grief or you are having a particularly difficult time. Bereavement counsellors aim to help you acknowledge the death by helping you talk about the circumstances surrounding it; they encourage the emotional expression of the pain of grief; they try to identify coping strategies and people who might offer support; they help you in the process of building a new life and help you let go of the dead person.

Abnormal Grief

Not everyone passes through the stages of grief smoothly. Some people find that they get stuck at one stage. Others find it difficult to grieve and do not acknowledge the death at all. Some people find that they are consumed with intense anger or feelings of betrayal that last for months. If grief is intense and unbearable, it needs to be treated.


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